Why do cultural differences have less impact when intercultural relationships develop beyond the initial stages?

Why do cultural differences have less impact when intercultural relationships develop beyond the initial stages?

Chapter 10 Extended Outline

EXTENDED CHAPTER OUTLINE

There are increasing opportunities today to interact with individuals from other cultures, but many young

people tend not to express an interest in taking advantage of these opportunities. We rarely think about

the potential that our personal relationships might cause us to lose our nationality or other group

memberships, but it must be recognized that not all cultures recognize or value all relationships. This

chapter will explore the benefits and challenges of intercultural relationships and will describe six

dialectics as a way of thinking about intercultural friendships and romantic relationships.

I. Benefits and Challenges of Intercultural Relationships

A. Benefits: Most people have a variety of intercultural relationships that may feature

differences in age, physical ability, gender, ethnicity, class, religion, race, or

nationality.

1. Rewards of intercultural relationships are great, and the key to these relationships is an

interesting balance of differences and similarities.

2. Benefits include:

Acquiring knowledge about the world

Breaking stereotypes

Acquiring new skills

3. In intercultural relationships we often learn about the partner's language, cultural

patterns, and history. This relational learning comes from a particular relationship, but

generalizes to other contexts.

4. Building intercultural relationships provides information and experiences that may

challenge previously held stereotypes.

5. We may learn how to do new things (new games, new recipes, new sports).

6. These benefits lead to a sense of interconnectedness to others and establish a lifelong

pattern of communication across differences.

B. Challenges: There are several ways in which intercultural relationships are unique, and

these present particular challenges.

1. Dissimilarities may be more obvious during early stages of the relationship and then

have less impact as commonalities are established and the relationship develops.

2. There seems to be an interplay between differences and similarities in intercultural

relationships.

3. Because differences are a given, the challenge is to discover and build on

similarities.

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    What are some challenges for people involved in intercultural relationships?

    Particular challenges faced by people in cross-cultural relationships include:.
    coping with religious differences..
    loss of identity..
    daily disagreements over small things - cooking, hygiene, standards, rituals etc..
    different ideas about the meaning of love, family and relationships..

    What challenges do intercultural couples face when they decide to make their relationship permanent?

    Special challenges of intercultural relationships include coping with differences, tending to stereotype, dealing with anxiety, and having to explain ourselves to others.

    Why are intercultural relationships important?

    Increasing Cultural Knowledge The benefits of intercultural relationships span differences in gender, age, ethnicity, race, class, nationality, religion, and much more. The moment you begin an intercultural relationship, is the moment you begin to learn more about the world.

    What are the challenges of intercultural marriage?

    Challenges You May Face.
    Derogatory comments in public..
    Loss of contact with friends or family that disapprove..
    Negative comments online or in the media..
    Negative stereotyping..
    Open hostility and intimidation..
    Rejection from family or being disinherited..
    A sense of isolation..
    Stares, insults, jibes, slights, and whispers..